Brad Coleman is married but that doesn’t mean he doesn’t have great advice for all the RAD DADS out there. Brad and I talked about finding balance in vulnerability, the importance of communication in all relationships, and the invaluable lesson of expecting the unexpected. Brad is a big believer in parents supporting other parents and shares how you can find the right people to help you become your best self.
Founder of the Fatherhood Fraternity, Brad and I talk about all things dad. Join us for some awesome and insightful conversation.
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“I’m just a dad trying to find my way.”
Safe places and shared resources
The importance of not isolating yourself.
“I don’t think we intentionally put up the facade, but we don’t give each other opportunities to be real with each other.”
The idea of sharing the right things, in the right way, with the right people.
How to trust others and ask for help.
Finding a balance between sharing too much and not sharing enough.
Shared interests, experiences, or perspectives help build those circles of trust.
How do we get better in touch with our values?
“I’m not going to work for the sake of going to work, I’m going to work to provide for my family.”
Are you spending your time wisely?
“How much time do you want to spend with the family and are you going to be present when you are there with the family, making the most of that time?”
How to expect the unexpected.
“You can’t be so rigid in your schedule that you aren’t able to adjust when life throws you curveballs.”
Balancing work and life, with one flowing through the other.
Putting kids and parenting first, regardless of the relationship with the other parent.
How and why did The Fatherhood Fraternity come to exist? What is Brad’s vision?
“It’s about helping dads regain their identities as men.”
“I want to help guys recognize that there are other guys out there like you. How do we live up to our own principles and go from playing defense in life where we feel like things are happening to us, to playing offense in that we can make changes in our life to be a better man. And then guide our life in the direction we want it to go.”
How have Brad’s children played a role in making Brad the best version of himself?
“They keep me grounded in terms of allowing me to be in the moment.”
How Brad’s failures helped him step his game up.
The importance of patience and expectations, especially when it comes to your children, and how to recognize and fix it.
“We don’t give ourselves enough credit for how far we’ve come.”
Offering support to other parents who are coming up behind you.
Superpower: being a human jungle gym
Tactic for being more patient: taking deep breaths, leaving the room, asking his wife for help
Communication: “It’s not the message received, it’s the message sent.”
Family bucket list goal: being more independent, traveling, the value of having experiences
What lessons have the children taught Brad? Slowing down and appreciating the moment
Quote/Mantra: “How can I serve this person?” – It eases any defensive posture you may have.
The Fatherhood Fraternity: http://www.thefatherhoodfraternity.com/
The Frat House Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/226909867663871/
Brad Coleman on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/brad.coleman.186